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If you had no children living at home, I would applaud your efforts to stick with this child. But, it does sound as if he could be a danger to your children and all of your kids are young enough to be susceptable to a nine year old with the issues you described. His being highly intelligent is actually worse, he'll be smart enough to get around some of your safeguards.

I'm sorry you seemed to be misled about this child, I can see how those first glowing reports can make the reality that much harder. I wish you had been given the true picture right away, before your hearts became involved.

Hugs and good luck.