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Yes, definitely, many, many times! I always take the position that the individual doesn't know me, has the right to their opinion (good or bad), and likely is unhappy about something that me or my comments have made them realize about themselves. I find those people that are quite vocal on the internet forums rarely speak out in a "real" situation. My feeling, if I won't stand by my words face to face than I have no business posting them. I try never to make someone else feel badly in order to make myself look better/smarter or "right". What's the point?? There's enough misery and low self-esteem to go around as it is.
My daughter left her cell phone in a cab last Saturday night (her 3rd one) and I was so angry but didn't say much because she already felt badly. The driver had turned it in and they called her. When we went to pick it up she decided to give him a small reward (her own money) but the gentleman said no what I want you to do next time you are going to say something that would hurt someone to hold her your tongue or if you see someone that needs a hot meal, treat them. What a nice person. I'm going to try and remember his attitude the next time I get attacked and just let it go. They obviously don't have anything better to do and, as John Candy said in Planes, Trains and Automobiles, "I like me, my wife likes me". Well, in my case, I'm working on liking me, my kids, both raised and my bson, like me. To me, everyone else's opinion really doesn't matter. I respect them but try not to take their comments to heart (sometimes easier said than done).
The most painful attacks about being a bmom are from my own family (who did not have anything to do with placing bson - ha ha) usually face to face at some random holiday. Sometimes I wish they were separated from me by a computer screen and I could simply delete them!
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