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I can't tell you how many times in the last week again that I have gotten the funny looks, the comments about us being stuck on the "idea" rather than understanding how much work it will be once we get her. No one even wanting to talk about it with us because they don't support us..... --cheesehead
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Cheesehead....ohhhhh, let me tell you!!!!!!
Dh and I are both 51 this year. We didn't adopt our first child until age 23. The next one came in '82. At that time ('81/82).....we were considered OLD for just starting out. I remember well the high school reunions and people remarking about 'how we waited SO LONG!' (Incredible, BTW...) And now, at 51, we have a 6yr old, a 5yr old and 18month old....all babies when they came; and we just updated our homestudy to do this again (God Willing...... (hope, hope, hope!!!!)
I"ve heard that
'You haven't any idea how much WORK that'll be'......for SO LONG. Honestly, I think MANY people who say that, simply didn't think raising children was as neat as
they thought it would be. (I hope that doesn't offend anyone....I've just basically found that thinking to be true where we've been.)
We've also found, there are a LOT of people who'd secretly give just about anything to be able to adopt more babies now that they're older....but either their jobs, family or spouses don't agree. I often feel so badly for them too...because it's clear how they feel when you hear them speak about it.
There are those who think about doing things; those who talk about doing things; and those who actually do them.
(That's paraphrased from some other comment somewhere.)
Funny thing is........if any of us were
going back to college,
taking on a new job, or
going back to work,
I daresay the majority of people would exclaim, "Well, GOOD for YOU!!!!" (And clap while they're saying it, KWIM?)
But when many of us talk about going back to---or starting to
Parent again, or for the first time....people seldom give those kinds of responses, do they? It makes me wonder why....... I mean, WHY should they CARE about the steps and
type of work we're planning out for ourselves?????
....And the only reason I can think of---for the most part----is that many of them are really-- secretly-- thinking-- and wishing----they---were---us!
Stay the course, cheese........it'll happen, and you'll do well, indeed!!!!!
(((HUG)))
Most Sincerely,
Linny