Sorry if you are offended by my choice of the word "naive". I'm offended by your description of the only parents a child has had for most of their young life as just "nice people who took care of you.". Phht. I took care of my fs and put heart and soul into everything it took to heal some emotional and psychological disorders that no one in his birth family would touch, or was the least bit qualifed to tackle. But ya better bet when the work is done they want to reap the benefits.
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Originally Posted by RobinKay
I think it's lot easier to explain that these were nice people who took care of you for a while vs. no one in your (birth) family wanted you. I do not appreciate my point of view characterized as "naive". It is very clear that many people (certainly not all) become foster parents with the idea of adopting. They have a personal agenda, there is no altruistic motive of caring for children in crisis.
I completely understand the concerns about RAD, and I do not wish any child to have that disorder-I see the effects on families working at my elementary school. Without a doubt the system needs to be fixed and move much faster--children should not be with a foster family from birth until 3,4, 5 yrs old waiting for permanency. Transitions need to be done carefully--the adults involved need to be adults and know their role in the child's life.
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