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I appreciate that you state you are not "against" biofamily adoptions.
Please be aware that the process for family members can be very lengthy. Biofamily members do not just wake up one day and decide, yes, we'll take our young relative, thanks very much.
There are often family relationships to straighten out, there is a lot of legal paperwork and homestudy stuff--ours took almost a year. We were desperately interested in our (now) son and were told not to even write to him or send gifts by the social worker. Of course, come time for court and we were criticized for "not having a relationship" and for having only one visit.
Think of the long term view--a child growing up wondering why no one in the birth family wanted them. That was our thought, that was why we could not just let him go to the foster parents who (said) they loved and wanted him.
We knew our son had firm, loving memories of his family and would eventually react to losing all those people. It was beautiful to see him reunited with his maternal grandfather who had not seen him in two years. They were right in each other's arms immediately.
I realize yours are little ones who know only you-but the questions will come about bio family later, and the wondering why--
I am sorry for your pain--there is no good way to do this
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