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Originally Posted by abjbadopt
It sounds like you already made a decision and now everyone is trying to change your mind. You sound smart and determined so be strong and do what you think is best, not what anyone else thinks!
I think it would be hard to have your parents raise the baby but that is just an opinion.
Someone said that your baby deserves to be with his family...it is true and his adoptive family WILL be his family too if you choose this. Maybe your parent can have visitation too if you choose adoption.
As an Aparent, my daughter is my family, I am her mom. Her family is mine and mine is hers. Even though we do not know them, we are all connected through a wonderful, beautiful little girl.
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I agree with most of this whole heartedly. Now if you would please bear with me a moment and think about that daughter of your whom you obviously love so much: If she were to become pregnant at the 17 or so, and wanted to place her baby in adoption, can you honestly tell me that you would be completely supportive of that IF AT THE TIME YOU WERE WILLING READY AND ABLE TO ADOPT THE BABY YOURSELF? I am not only a mother but also a grandmother. I have seen and experienced this from every angle (except having placed a child in adoption myself) and I am simply trying to be certain that this young women have a glimpse into the future. This isn't just a little baby as we all know: this child will be a teenager and an adult one day. This young woman might be really glad to have placed her child in a home (her own parents) where she can have a greater degree of certainty that she will always be able to have contact. I wouldn't want any of our posts to lead her to believe that if she is promised the stars and moon from the couple (or any other) that the adoption will be wide open, the truth is the adoptive parents can halt that at any time and sometimes choose to. I don't want her to have false hopes or promises of any kind. And maybe she has good reasons to not place with mom and dad, but the cramped living quarters is the only thing I remember from the original post (I may be wrong). And that really isn't a great reason to not place with her parents. I agree that she doesn't owe them the baby, or anyone else for that matter. But she does have a responsibility to consider what is best for her CHILD as well as herself. And it never hurts to consider what might be best for her own parents, too. After all, she is turned out pretty well, it seems. Maybe they would be great parents to this child. I truly don't mean to come off sounding like I am hounded her to give baby to mom and dad...she may have other reasons not to.