[robandjulie]

With our case being out of PGN, we're really starting to get DD (age 3) ready for the idea of a little brother and sharing all the attention. She knows about him, knows his picture, prays for him every day, has talked with him often on video chat, but it's becoming a more concrete thing now. She's a very affectionate and bright girl with a lot of empathy and excellent language skills, so I thought we were doing well.

This weekend we're graduating her into a big girl bed (from toddler bed), moving some baby stuff out and putting in bookshelves etc. On Weds she helped me pick out her new bedspread and a "big sis" necklace and we talked all about the ups and downs of being a big sister, how things may change and what won't, what she'll be able to do to help mommy and "georgie" and the fun special things she and mom/dad will still do since she's such a big girl, etc.

So last night I was putting her to bed and she started in on "when georgie comes home, I'll ....(blah blah blah) ...and georgie will sleep in the green room in my old bed and georgie's mommy will sleep downstairs-" and so I cut her off and explained (again) that I will be his mommy. She looked at me funny and moved on. "...and georgie's daddy will-" No, your daddy will also be georgie's daddy.

Then she started sobbing and finally got out "but I want you to stay here with me!" I assured her we weren't going anywhere for long (just pickup) and that when we were all home together we'd be here together forever.

The thing is, she sees Jorge with his FF on our weekly video chats and so she KNOWS he has a different life and family right now. When she sees him/them and asks, we've always just said that's Jorge's other mommy b/c it seemed to much to explain it all. And so now I think she is struggling to understand that he'll be leaving that family but that our family is and will be forever and that no one is going to remove her from her mommy, etc.

Does anyone have any good books/videos/explanations in general that would be age appropriate? She seemed really distressed last night and was still extra clingy this morning, talking about not wanting me to leave. She never fusses when I leave for work and today she kept demanding that I confirm I would be home for dinner.

Thanks in advance!