[Ktates]

Oh I so know how you feel!!! It's the worst feeling. My dd came home at 14 months. both grandparents live close by and asked for sleepovers. I wasn't ready and dd kept saying no as well. Last summer/fall when dd was 3 and 1/2 she totally went through a stage where I really couldn't leave her with anyone else. My dad came to pick her up one afternoon to give me a much needed break and she just freaked and wouldn't get in the car. So I didn't get my break! There was a definite fear of me leaving and not coming back for her.

My suggestion would be to hold off on the overnights if you can. If he has a real concern about being left or you not coming back then try to do some shorter visits - to help reinforce that you are coming back. He hasn't been home that long so he is still adjusting.

When you do have to do sleepovers or drop offs try not to tell him to far in advance. I found this just ended up worrying dd more - so I would just tell her that morning if she was going to Nana's later - and be matter of fact - "yippee you are going to Nana's later - you will have so much fun!" rather than oh don't you want to go to Nana's?

Hang in there - it will get better! now my dd loves her sleepovers...