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Please consider allowing your parents to adopt your child, if in fact after he is born you still feel the way you do. BUT be very clear that they are not trying to manipulate you into being his mother/parenting him. IF they really do plan to adopt him as their own, them you must understand that several years from now you don't get the option to change your mind and attempt to reclaim him from them as your own. I agree to wait until AFTER he is born, but shortly thereafter it needs to be decided if you are his sister or his mother. HE needs this. Your parents deserve to be respected as this child's parents if you do decide to relinquish him to them. You don't get to be the other "mommy"--dressing him up in cute clothes to go over and playing house with his biodad, and some of the other things that sometimes are fun and tempting...this isn't the best thing for him. You can be his big sister or his mother but not both. And I STRONGLY agree with other post that if your parents are willing and able to adopt, this is what you should do for your son. I have a son, 21, who was born to me when I was young and unmarried. I have a daughter whom I adopted, 11, who was my husband's biogranddaughter. She gets to still have some of the bio connection to her family...she knows she grew inside her sister's body and then was our child. She understands that this was a "good-mother" thing that bmom did FOR her..recognized she wouldn't/couldn't be a parent at that time and made a better choice for child.
Best of everything to you. Remember, that tiny house won't be your home for many more years, anyway. You are on the brink of adulthood, and it really isn't fair of you to decide HIS whole future on what is physically comfortable for you. He didn't ask to be conceived.
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