[blessedbybug]

Been thinking about this a little more as I think, based on other answers, I didn't fully get the question. The truth is that we would most likely have never met if adoption would not have brought us together. If nothing else, it was because of location. We lived in different places.

But I have been amazed how much in common we have in personality, even though we have led very different lives and come from very different families and circumstances. DD's other mom and I met a couple week ago just the two of us. We hadn't really talked without the presence of others for a couple of years. And we still clicked. We were both nervous but once we hugged it was like we hadn't been separated. I just wish that she would be able to engage in friendship because I think we could be great supports to each other and it would only benefit DD.

DS's other mom said the minute she physically saw me, she started crying because she felt in her soul that we were meant to have a connection. She's deeply spiritual in her own way. I just wish I knew her better and hope that happens soon, as we are moving very close to where she lives.

They picked people with whom they felt some connection to be parents for their kids. I still hope that friendship comes from it. With effort from all of us, I think it will. I don't think you have to have lots of things in common to be friends.