[JustPeachy]

Keep in mind that what other people blog about pertains to their individual thoughts, feelings and situations, but that does not mean every bmom or adoptee feels that way. Although it was a very difficult decision for me to place my child, I do not regret that decision and never really have. I sometimes regret the circumstances, though, and wish things could have been different in that regard, but I cannot change my circumstances, so I have come to accept things as they were/are. My child has had a great life with everything I wish I could have provided him with, and in a sense, I did provide him with those things precicely by making an adoption plan. I have met other birthmoms who feel similarly. As far as I can tell from the info I have, my son has adusted well. If he does have "issues" from being adopted, I hope he can work through them and also realize that he would still have issues (albeit different ones) had he been raised by me when I was not ready or able to parent. As others have said, the losses and feelings of grief do need to be understood and acknowledged, but I wouldn't feel discouraged or bad about adopting because of what you are reading on the net.