[waiting4amiracle]

Hi Green,

Adoptive dad of a beautiful 13 month old girl here. DW and I just sat on a panel discussing many different aspects of adoption with couples who are considering adoption as their family growth option. During one of the discussions two adoptees, an adult and a 15 year old girl both shared they "always knew" they were adopted and can't even remember when they were first "told" they were adopted. They just always knew. Both admitted to feeling they were, in some ways, different from other kids because of it but, in general, had no regrets about knowing. They went on to say they each were glad they just "always knew" because finding out later in life could be quite disruptive and stir up feelings of distrust of their APs. Each spoke frankly to those couples considering adoption about not hiding the truth because it does eventually come out.

Even now we include a special prayer for our DD's birth mom, and we use her name and give thanks for her courage and choices which brough us together as a forever family. That's the way we're starting. it won't be until children are 6 or 7 that the true concept of adoption begins to take shape but at least by then it's a familiar topic.

I wish you the best and am here to listen....