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Originally Posted by hkolln
Our niece's SW proceeded to visit the YMCA where she's attending camp today without letting me know. I did not put her down to see our niece so they called me asking me if the DCF worker was OK to visit...and I asked her name and it was her so I OK'd it. I didn't expect her to visit her at camp so I never placed her name on the list....
Anyways she stopped by to see her to inquire about our trip to visit the previous FP's and our relatives in WA state. Our niece then went on to say "She asked me if I saw my Mom while there and I told her NO" and then proceeded to say "I don't know why she asked me that!?" I'm not sure either...maybe just fishing for information? It seemed to catch our niece off guard and confused her because we mentioned nothing about being in the close proximity to her biomom. Since we decided to not visit her and felt it wasn't a good time we never mentioned it to her. I thought that was a dumb question to ask her when I told the SW the day before we left we are not at the point for her to visit with her Mom. I wonder if she just didn't believe me? Just ticked me off! Maybe I'm just being overprotective 
I'm still waiting for the SW to call me to inquire about our trip. I guess she wanted to hear it from our niece for some reason instead of us or without us nearby. |
I am looking forward to your finalization!!!!!!!!
I remember the guilty pleasure I felt when I knew we were going to adopt lil guy right after a status hearing--none of the social worker or GAL's office knew about it. We gave permission for them to stay for the adoption. What a relief to be able to walk away from all of them. The sw in Hawaii was nice, but pretty useless. He called while we were in Florida to set up the next visit--it was a pleasure to tell him we were in FL for the adoption! He was surprised, to say the least. Another thing I enjoyed was sending an "adoption annoucenment" to the prior foster parents to let them know the court order granting them "unlimited contact" was now void/no longer in effect.
I never thought of myself as a control freak, but too many people in this case thought they knew everything about our son, and actually knew very little.
The sw seems like she is stepping up her contact/information gathering, perhaps in prep for the adoption hearing. It seems rude to not notify you that she was going to see your daughter at the camp. I am sure if she asked to speak with her alone at any time you would have made arrangements for that. She is not the therapist, and I agree it was not a good idea for her to bring up bmom or visits with bmom.