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Originally Posted by FlyNJ
I thought I had seen this somewhere else, but can't find anything now. My husband and I are in the early stages of the process and debating international v. domestic adoptions. I know ultimately we need to decide which issues/concerns are more important to us, but I would be curious to hear how others made the decision. What concerns you had or what finally pushed you over to adopt either domestically or internationally.
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There were three main issues that pushed us to domestic (I'm in Canada)
1) Medical information... we decided that there were too many unknowns and that we had a greater chance of knowing the possible health concerns of a child if they were born here and if we knew their other parents.
2) Finances... because of the regulations in our province, a domestic placement is about 1/3 that of any international adoption, and our research included a placement from the US (my home country) where the average cost was well over 3 times more than fees for services in an adoption here in Canada.
3) Ultimately though, we chose domestic placement because we wanted an open adoption that included face to face visits and regular, mutual updates. We wanted to know our children's other families and we hoped to have a life long relationship with them. It hasn't been (so far, but I'm always hoping...) that easy and not what we wished for but we're still working on it.