Thank you for your replies.
Loveajax, our DD is 4 months old.
I know we need to get a good foundation established now or it will be more difficult in the future.
I like how you put it, Proudmom, that we need to be closer to the agreement for the sake of normalcy in our life - of course, this implies we had it before!
It is so nice to hear I'm not the only one going through this. I have a small local network of adoptive moms I can talk to, but most of them have birthmothers who have chosen very limited contact.
Thanks again ladies!
Blessings,
Nicksbride