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Originally Posted by dragonfly1234

This is such a personnal decision that only you can make for you and your family. Wishing you the best.

Oh sure, you're right. I'm not really looking for advice. Just thought it might be an interesting topic. I've thought a lot about the "process" of having a child. A friend of mine made the comment recently that she thought it would be "neat" to adopt a child from China someday. It struck me that she must think adoption is relatively easy as compared to pregnancy and childbirth (not to get on my friends case as she had twins!). But in my experience, there is no "easy" way to have a child. In my own case, the adoption process was emotionally devastating at times. I often think there's no way I could go through that again. But then I look at my children. And there's nothing I wouldn't do for them. At any rate, it's just a mental exercise at the moment. My two baby boys have started crawling in the last couple of months and I've discovered I can't actually be in three places at once (weird). So I don't know how we'd fit in a fourth child just yet!