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Ask permission to slow it down....
Ideally, it should take many days to happen.
Explain that you think it should go something like:
The first visit future parents come to YOUR house, interact mainly with YOU and simply "observe" kiddo.
The second visit future parents interact with you and kiddo (play games, go to the park together, something where EVERYONE is there). Also, when you do cares for her... cutting up food, bathing, dressing... you do them, but future parents are present with you.
Third visit, much like the second EXCEPT at key times...ask the future parents to take over cares... for example "Oh, I was going to grab K's jacket, but I just remembered I need to make a phone call... mommy smith, could you get her jacket and put it on her please?" (or something) Do this all day long... showing you trust "mommy smith" to do her cares.
Fourth day future parents take kiddo for half a day
Fifth visit, take her the whole day
Sixth visit, one over night
Seventh visit two overnights
Eight visit three overnights.
Then she leaves.
This is ideal, condense it if need be... but try to fit this transition of caregiving in and show K that you trust the new parents to caregive.
Push, push, push for transition. It is hard on everyone but best in the end.
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Mama to Pixie  and Tucker  both two, both adorable, both adopted.
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