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Old 06-21-2008, 11:59 AM
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It's as easy as simply stating, "Actually, that won't work for us" when she suggests a visit beyond what was initially agreed.

And tell her what WOULD work....she senses you pulling away and it scares her that it's a "door closing".

I'd go to the "birthparent" forums and post this same exact question there. they may give you better advice for avoiding triggering the bmom's fears.
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