I agree that letting go of our ideas and just taking it as it comes works so much better. I have children in my home that at first I would not have considered. But getting to know them has been great. We started out to adopt only and wanted only a boy between the ages of 5 and 10. That is not what we have ended up with.
We have turned down three placements and accepted nine. All but three went to tpr, those three were hard, but went with family (but I would not have missed meeting them for the world). Two went to tpr, but were not right for our family, and were placed in adoptive homes (one was later moved to residential care). The other four we have kept, or are going to keep (two girls and two boys). So only two of nine went into the system for adoption, unfortunately that makes your wait longer.
Just relax you never know who you might meet!!!! 
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Married to my wonderful Husband for 23 years!!!
Bio Mom to 3 C, M & S (ages 20, 19 & 15) 
Adopted Mom to A, A, B & H (ages 5, 4, 4 & 1) 
Grandma to 1 C born 7/07 (age 1) 
1st placement RB 5/04 (age 4) moved to adoptive home 2/06
2nd placement SW 6/05 (age 4) moved to uncle's 7/05
3rd placement A 11/05 (age 7 months) we adopted 2/07 (now age 4) 
4th placement JE 2/06 (age 3) went home 2/06
5th placement AM 4/06 (age 2) moved to grandma's 4/06
6th placement KM 8/06 (age 10) moved to adoptive home 6/07 (now in a home for girls)
7th & 8th placement A & B 2/07 siblings (ages 3 & 1) A we adopted 3/09 (now age 5), B we adopted 1/09 (now age 4)  
9th placement H 12/07 (age one day) we adopted 1/09 (now age 1) 
10th & 11th placement LH & JH 3/09 siblings (ages 2 & 3) RU w/ mom 4/09
12th placement NZ 6/09 (age 4) moved to new foster placement 10/09
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