[Oceans]

elledarcy... When she is OK with it and you are comfortable I really hope you reach out - sooner than later. I think it's important for him to know your door is open. It's easier to bond with a baby, than it is to bond with a 5 year old. Most bdads dont have the pre-birth bond... KWIM?

I think the younger he is, the more likely is feeling something. At least that was the case in my families HS , then Military situation. Also, the Military is very pro-family which also gave incentive (in our case) for bdad to be an active and healthy participant in the OA. I'm not saying today... Just not years from now either. If you don't let him know, then (to a degree) your are making his decision for him since it's unlikely he will reach out to you.

Just a thought.