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Old 06-19-2008, 05:47 AM
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Hi Denise,

I am speaking to you as an adult adoptee.

I am not sure how much work your daughter has done to deal with the effects of adoption. I can tell you that in reunion, anything that even hints at rejection, cuts to the core of the adopted persons soul. If she is not working on those issues in some sort of support group or therapy, she will shut down.

If I had to make an educated guess, I would say the rejection of her other family members, shut her down and she can not be open to you.

I would recommend trying to take them out of the picture if you can, and slow things down. I not sure how you do that, being that they have already been introduced, but if you can, that would help.

Leave it between you and her and build trust. Slowly.

Kim
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