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honestly, my first impression was it could be a bit intrusive to contact him. Afterall, it was only 3 months ago he didn't want to be involved. I'm not saying never contact him but why risk offending him (in my language freaking him out), jeopardizing a future relationship and most importantly jeopardizing your relationship with your child's birthmother who may feel hurt/betrayed by it. Or not ready even to be asked about it ya know?
Let me say, and I'm sorry if I'm generalizing here, but having conducted my own search and dealing with 5 different potential bfathers fairly directly: it's not easy for men to deal with not being able to "provide" for their offspring (I'm using that word because I do think it's in their DNA!!!). He may still be in deep denial and it could be a disaster!
I LOVE E's bfather and I can call him any time. I cherish our relationship which has only gotten better and better over time. I really hope it works out but I personally think it might be too soon.
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Last edited by Stormster : 06-18-2008 at 07:00 PM.
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