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Originally Posted by marykath
Hello, we adopted our oldest daughter at birth 4 years ago from a very loving birthmom. We exchange letters and photos and visit a few times a year with her and her older son. This has developed into a good relationship and we are very proud to call them part of our family.
Now, we have a fost/adopt child who is 2. TPR was done in June, and the official visits scheduled by the county have stopped. Birthmom is a nice woman but, I believe, is very controlled by the husband. He has had several stints in prison and is also a registered sex offender. My question: Birthmom has asked for visits once the adoption goes through (she is slowly coming to terms with it and has not yet filed an appeal). I want to my daughter-to-be to have the chance to know her birthmom (there is also one birth sibling still living with her), but I don't want a sex offender anywhere near our family. Should we say we will visit, but the husband is not to be included? We don't want to appear to be judging her (and her choice of partners), because we are just building a relationship with her. Maybe we should just say letters and pictures for now, and hopw their relationship ends? Birthmoms, what would you prefer? How would you react?
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if indeed he has been found guilty by a jury of his peers...i would wonder why you are even pondering this ...i am a bmom...i wanted my twins to have a safe happy life..in a loving enviroment...the bmom surely feels this way...good luck