[kakuehl]

I just found this thread and have read (admitedly skimmed) through the 5 pages. A couple of thoughts are now rattling around in my head. There are always trade-offs. Did I decide to have unprotected sex so that D's parents could have their son? Was that God's decision? I don't think so. His birth was the result of my decisions as was his placement for adoption. May parents would have helped me until I got established. I do believe that God can bring good even out of poor decisions. Did my reliquishing D give him a better life than he would have had? I don't know. In some ways it was not much different from the life his younger half-sibs experienced. All parents involved are college educated professionals. Since our reunion, when D complains about something his parents did or didn't do, I just say it wouldn't have been much different in my home. Were the reasons I had for placing D valid? Did I make the right decision? In light of the side effects of adoption for D and me, I'm not always sure. I do know that I did the best I could at the time, and that D has parents who love him unconditionally.