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Thank You for thinking of me. I posted again on my original post but I think that it just got lost in the shuffle. There were some definate heated debates.
As far as how we are doing. Things have not gotten any better w/our fd. My husband and I had a long heart to heart and came to the conclusion that we just are not the right family/parents for our fd. Maybe she needs more seasoned or experienced foster parents or maybe she shouldn't be an only child. I'm only guessing, but if we cannot love her 100% then it in truth is not fair to her. She deserves a family that loves her and is capable of dealing with her attachement issues. We are obviously not that family. We told her therapist last night. I broke down and cried, I am already grieving, thinking of the what if's. I only hope that they can find her, the forever family that she needs and deserves. I have to pray that this is what is best for her. I also have to believe that we also did alot for her. She has Noonans Syndrome and had a hole in her heart that had to be repaired. We saw her through major open heart surgery and delt with some other medical issues. She is now healthy and thriving. But, we could use some help with dealing with healing our grief so that we are able to tell her that she will be moving to another family and make the transition as easy for her as possible. How do you do this? Once she leaves us, we have decided to take a bit of time off before having another adoptive placment. My hubby and I need to deal with our feelings, spend some quality one on one time together and maybe read some more, attend more support group meetings and seminars. In other words we need to fill our cups back up. Any advice would be most helpful. Thanks again,
Seashel
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