[michellef1]

Now that it is ball season we are at the local ball park for our older DS's games. People is our small town have lots of looks and comments, I am choosing to consider them "curiosity"

"How old is he?" 8 months

"How long have you had him?" 8 months (We brought him home from the hospital)

"Where did he come from?"
(I assume that and the how long have you had him questions mean they think it was an international adoption? I try to avoid the "where did he come from" as it was a fairly local situation)

"His hair sure is curly" Sometimes this is a statement, but often it is really a question. I rarely take the bait.

"Is his hair naturally curly?" No, I get up extra every morning to curl it.

"What are you going to do about his hair?" I haven't cut his beautiful hair yet and have no intention of doing so any time in the near future. I think his hair is beautiful and I say so.

"He sure is tan"

"Is he black?" I chose not to give the lesson on biracial and just said yes.
This was followed by "Is he adopted?" Well, DH and I are both CC, blondes.

One lady wanted to hold him because she "really hopes she will get mixed grandchildren" because her older DS often dates AA girls.

Maybe we should get together and write a book. The "What not to say to adoptive parents" book. Honestky I generally think it is fairly amusing.