[mdesi]

DH and I experienced this same thing, too, with boths sets of parents. (Actually, his mother and my father.)

MIL issues were about a cousin of DH's that was going through a contested adoption. We asked more follow up questions to discover that 1. the laws were different in that state than our's 2. it was a completely different type of adoption than we were doing.

My dad's issues again with one of my cousins. Those cousins had two bio and two adoptions. One of the children that was adopted went wild, but we pointed out that the other was fine AND one his bio children went wild, too.

Both parents did not want their own children (DH and me) to get hurt. Both of them were speaking from that perspective, not to be Debbie Downer.

Ask you dad why he worries. Be prepared to find more information and follow up questions. Be prepared to explain that you can handle it. Be prepared to be vulnerable about why you are adopting. (Neither of our parents wanted us to experience the heart aches that we experienced before coming to adoption, so explaining how much hope and joy the process is giving you will help.)