[Lissa]

Our children are Chinese-Americans and I work very hard to expose Liddy to Chinese-American culture. I try to provide her with as many role models as possible and I educate myself to as many Asian-American issues as possible. I actively work with Asian groups and read about Asian American history. In addition I continue to expose Lydia to her heritage by teaching her Mandarin, studying Zhuang customs (she is a member of that particular minority group) and celebrate many Chinese holidays because to many Asian Americansheritage is an incredibly important part of their daily lives.
I have talked with adult Asian Adoptees who think this exposure is important and encourage me to do more for Lydia's self-esteem. I am teaching Lydia to make her way in the world. Part of that way is finding her individuality from Russ and myself. We are family. We are similar in our dramatic flair, our love of imagination and music. Our shared experiences make us family...but I feel it is important to acknowledge and celebrate our differences as well. I cannot share being Asian, but I can acknowledge it's importance and provide her with as many positive outlets for her personal growth as possible.

Lucy Lui who has been honored many times over by the Asian American community in general has this to say about Asians learning about their heritage: When you grow up Asian-American it’s difficult because you don’t know if you’re Asian or if you’re American. You get confused... You need to recognize your background. I think it’s important. Just for yourself. It makes you more whole. It does."