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To me a failed adoption is similar to a death. The deathe of a child born in your heart, the death of a hope, a dream and a plan to bring a new life into your world. This loss iVERY real. I know because my family had to give a baby back when I was 5yrs old and I can still remember how sad weall were and it is over 40 years later.
Some people don't even aknowledge a miscarraige as a real loss and will say stupid things like "you can always try again". I do not thing that they are intentionally going out of their way to say stupid things, they just do not know what to say.
On the other hand, some people avaid the subject all together and to me that is just as bad. I think the important thing is to talk about the baby. This baby was very real to the PAPS. Aknowledging their hurt without trying to minimize it or trivialize it is key. Validating the hurt is what helps people heal.
EZ
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