I try to keep in mind, that for the most part, people come here for support. Maybe they are struggling and want to know they aren't alone. Maybe they need advice to help them sort out their thoughts. Maybe they need a little guidance. Or maybe they have no issues at all (or have worked through them) and enjoy supporting others. So, for every person who comes here with struggles--there are TONS of others who are handling their adoption situation just fine. In fact, the main turning point for us to decide to adopt was my discussions with other adult adoptees. I have 5 people close to me who were adopted as infants and ALL of them are happy, bonded, loved and well-adjusted with their lives. And they don't personally feel the need to connect with anyone in the adoption community b/c its just not an issue in their life. Its a part of them--but it doesn't define them. I wouldn't begin to generalize and say that's true for all (or even most) adoptees. But it is true for all the adoptees that I know. Adoption is not without losses for all involved; that's just how it is. It kind of like the evening news. They go and on about all the horrible things that are happening in the town. But the great majority of the city is fine
