[Fran27]

Regarding love - it's great that you have no doubts you will love your child, but you need to be aware that love isn't something you can control. That love might not come right away, and with too high expectations you might feel really guilty about it - post adoption depression is very real. Just had to throw it out there.

Otherwise, my general opinion is that unhappy people are usually much more vocal than happy people. So, for every negative adoptee story you read, there are a lot of positive ones.

About the things kids say... well, kids are just kids. And most kids will push the adoption button, but if it wasn't there, they would just have found something else. It's up to you to raise a well adjusted child, and to teach from the start that their adoption was a good thing (no matter what lots of birthmothers can say, your child needs to believe it).