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I did an international adoption so my recognition and involvement with the bio family is very different then those who have done domestic adoptions. I do not celebrate father's day for her bio dad. However, I do have more of a connection with her bio dad then with her bio mom. Her bio mom died just prior to placement for adoption so I have no connection with her. I do believe her bio mom loved her immensely so I talk about her fondly with my daughter. However, I am trying to connect with bio dad as he is the one that made the decision to relinquish. And as a single mom, my daughter has no adoptive dad so the only dad she will ever have is a bio dad.

As an adult adoptee I do not celebrate my bio parents on mother's and father's days -- and never did. They are both dead now but for me those days are reserved for my adoptive parents. But that has more to do with the relationships then biology.

Samantha