[Devora]

Absolutely read Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft!!!

This is a great book, I think, no matter your child's age. Our son wasn't yet a toddler but I found it very useful and I took a lot of ideas from it that I used proactively. I think it really helped our son's transition be so smooth.

If you're bringing home a child who is older than a toddler it's also a great resource. You can adapt a lot of the ideas to your child's age. Also, many children will seem younger emotionally than their chronological age so it may still very much apply to an older child.