what i have to say may not be popular, but if i were in your shoes, i'd let it go.....but i'd also not visit. i'd just say that i understood things were hectic, and maybe we could schedule in a visit another time. i think if it were really important for her to meet him, she'd have come already. there is no reason to trek across so many states for her to meet someone she doesn't want to meet. i'd stay home and enjoy my family. but that is just me.
