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Originally Posted by EZ2Luv
Not saying breasfeeding is the ONLY way to bond. I was not breastfed and I am an adoptee and I super bonded with amom. The fact is a breast fed baby that is not the bio of the fmom is going to bond to her, then what happens if the baby is moved. Babies can bond without being breast fed, but the possiblity of taking baby to breast for a long period of time when there are no guarentees of permanancy is going to hard on the baby. Ask any mother who breast feeds or has bread fed. Even when they express milk to bottle feed it is sometimes difficult to transition baby. The only way for a smooth transition to bottle is to alternate breast and EBM bottle fed from the very begining. Trust me I have BTDT. Some babies once they get that breast they won't settle for anything but.
EZ
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I think you are saying that a baby that is not breast-fed is less likely to "bond" to the foster mom. That would be terribly unfortunate for the baby, because that is where attachment disorder starts. It is FAR better for the baby to bond and then be moved and have that bond disrupted, than for the baby to NOT bond in the first place. It is true that it hurts a child to have multiple placements, but it hurts them even more to not be able to attach in the first place. The tragedy of a child that does not bond very early in life is a lifetime legacy of pain and suffering. Fortunately, I do not believe that breastfeeding is the only way to accomplish this, but I did really want to address your idea (if I understand you correctly) that it is better for a baby NOT to bond to a foster mom.