[daddysangel]

Both my wife and I have been the only parents our first born has ever known.She is now 9yrs old and we were forced by the courts to tell her roughly around 6 yrs old.

It made no differance to her.We are mom and dad.

I can not see any change in myself between the way I raise her compared to our 2nd daughter who is our biological daughter.I am both dad/daddy/father to both of them.

What I read in your post almost sounds like maybe you are afraid or your husband is,that maybe she will look at him in a differant way.You state that when you were 18 you found out that the MAN you thought was your father was not.I would think that if your husband is her daddy and her father and she is treated that way that she will not care.I am a man sure, but I am not a man to my daughters.Like I said I am dad/daddy/father.They treat me as I am and I treat them as daughters. When I address her I do not say " Hey you the one that is not mine".

If your husband has a good solid relationship (daughter/Daddy) with her then I do not think you have anything to worry about.

We also did not just come out and say " Oh by the way your not our bio daughter" We told her slowly and also through our actions for 6 yrs and verbally told her it makes no differance to us and you are our child in every sense of the word.

Hope that helps
GOD BLESS