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When I was in foster care as a teenager and went to visit my gramma, she would sometimes have me do housework for her and would pay me so much for so much time, or per chore etc. and even now I see nothing wrong with that as it was learning responsibility & to work for my money and what not.
However in your situation she is being given money for something specific that she's supposedly done, which is actually a lie. This is not teaching her any responsibility whatsoever.
I personally think it would be a good idea to discuss it with the bio mom and let her know that it's a great idea to teach FD responsibility (so that she doesn't feel like you are undermining her) and let her know the truth about how FD has really done in school. Offer to make it a team effort by giving the bio mom regular updates on FD's school progress each week so that when she does show responsibility by doing well she reaps the benefits and when she doesn't she reaps the consequence.
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