Startedover as a bmom you didn't offend me at all. I think "better off" is common adoption language to be honest with you and for whatever reason is on the top 10 list of bmoms. But I agree strongly with TG:
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I think I think that there's a difference between the perception that your children will be better off and the reality of if your child will ACTUALLY be better off.
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And my original thought of we will never know.
To me it's not about better it's about different. When I look back on my choice to place, I realize now that there was no right or wrong choice. It was just a choice. Things have turned out the way they did b/c I chose adoption. Things would have been fine had I chose to parent - different, but fine. Yeah... we would have struggled but we would have made it. In the short term, my son had better clothes and a more comfortable crib than I could have provided - probably more parent time as well since I would have been a single working teen mom.
So better off short term... probably. Long term, who knows. But I say that with 26 years of having placed behind me. I can see long term today. I couldn't back then.
Hopefully that makes sense...