[nikkianni]

I think like every adoption situation, this too is individual.
But I don't think it's wrong to feel the way you do.
In DD's case, this would be a better life situation.
Will that be the case with our next child? Maybe not.
Not to sound insensitive, but I don't dwell on it. I know my daughter is meant to me my daughter. I can't see anything wrong with that.
I haven't had the "what would her life have been like otherwise" thoughts for about a year now.
I respect her birthparents for making a tough choice that was all about their child's well being. And I'm thankful to them that they saw something in DH and I that made them believe we would be great parents. I try to live up to that every day.
But otherwise, I just live my life as mom, and I'm grateful for that.
Sometimes we can get too caught up in the "adoption" issues I think.