[opalwench]

Originally Posted by Snick22

Maybe this could be better by changing it to

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Placing a child for adoption doesn't mean those people are not good parents, they just COULDN'T be at that particular time.

I think that has the possiblity to be inaccurate as well. I think you missed some of what TG was saying (TG correct me if I've got it screwed up.) Yet again, you're getting into "whys" which, as was said, is dangerous territory.

Speaking from my case, we would and could have been good parents. Placement is much more complex than it appears.

To the OP, I really cringe at "better," and I really want to tell you that "different" is not "better." But me telling you that doesn't change how you feel.

I really feel that you are setting up a measuring stick where there doesn't need to be one.

To take it out of adoption land - One could argue that my cousins have a better life than my sister and I. My aunt did more housekeeping, there were rules about meals and vegetables and desserts, stricter beliefs, etc. And yes, none of my cousins went off and got pregnant or moved in with a guy or experienced any number of trials that I have. But that doesn't mean that their lives are better, just different in my opinion. Because my experiences frame me and make my personality what it is... Does that make sense?