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Yah, that does seem like a broad statement about abandonment issues.
I will suggest however that abandonment problems are not necessarily related to attachment problems. Kids adopted at birth who only know attachment to their aparents can develop a fear of abandonment later in life.
While often linked, these are also often two totally different problems requiring different approaches. If you worked on and continue to practice attachment techniques, then continue. Are you seeing other attachment problem signs - or mainly this screaming when left alone?
2.5 would be an typical age where fear of abandonment might foster itself. Both you and he are experimenting with true independence and it might be freaking him out a bit. He's becoming very self-aware and his confidence is more or less tied to your presence right now. My suggestion would be to go overboard in reassuring him that you're not going to abandon him. Play some games where he's intentionally out of your sight, like hide and seek and chase. Do some kindof chore that might require you to move repeated in and out of the room would help as well.
Be careful NOT to leave him alone for extended periods of time - it's actually a good sign that he's willing to express this fear. Don't assume he'll struggle through this and tuffen up so to speak. Now you can help him work through it rather than him simply accepting his fate and living without accepting this fear.
I've got some more personal experience with this in my family - PM me if you want specifics.
Blessings,
-Greg
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