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yes it is strange how just a call or a card can make such a world of difference....just a "thinking of you on this day" acknowledgment..... it has so much power to cheer someone up.
Are they just busy?....forgetful?.....or do they actually know how it is hurting us?
I am only a b-fathers wife...but it hurts so much when she does not acknowledge him on birthdays, fathers day, etc...anymore. and I've had to stop myself from calling her and just saying what's going on !!!!!? how can you be so thoughtless !!!!?
and if it was one of our other kids, I would....
but there is a whole other set of rules to go by it seems in this case. she has set up some pretty clear boundries lately it seems.
I think I will develope the holiday amnesia that she has.....I'm just sick of being ignored!!
In the first year or so EVERY holiday she either called sent a card or at least an e-card or e-mail...or all of them....and so did we....
now we still send cards & packages etc....but then have to call "her" to make sure they recieved it as they don't even call or write to say thank-you or to let us even know that they recieved it !!!
I would understand if she was a teenager, or was never taught manners etc....but thats not the case here. so I take it as a deliberate action.
and I just will never understand this part of reunion....these deliberate hurtful actions.....
the calculating silence....
I't a much different relationship then I thought we were going to have, she begged us for a close relationship....and now withholds her attention to us in her tight little fist as if she wants us to beg for it.
at this point we have no idea what she wants.
I'm just getting tired of it all.....
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