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I just wanted to also add that you might want to ask to speak to the aunt. We were in the ICPC process to take a cousins baby ( and I totally echo that the family DRAMA was CRAZY!!!) when the baby was placed in foster care. It was a slow moving process and we asked the social worker many times "Is the current foster family foster only or do they want to adopt" because as former foster parents we felt that if the baby had bonded to his foster family (the ICPC process was taking like 6 months) and if they REALLY REALLY wanted to adopt the child that we seriously considered "backing out" and trying to maintain a semi-open relationship with the foster family so if in the future they needed family info or contact we could provide it.
The aunt might be on the same page. she might be willing to take the child out of a feeling of obligation to the family and the child but might also be willing to consider leaving the children placed with you if she could have some contact and if she knew that you were VERY SERIOUS about your intent to try to adopt. It might be worth a phone call.
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