Sometimes you have to set aside your anger and emotions for the kids...don't let the anger ruin your life or his life. He may want that connection to them later on. Step back from the situation and see it from his eyes..is what you are doing best for him OR is this something that is best for you? When it's time you'll know.
Our niece's previous foster grandma mailed her a card and letter back about a month after she moved here with us with a list of "Things I miss about you" which included stuff like, 'You yelling for your friends to come over to my house', 'you spending the night at my house', 'bike rides with you', etc...and it was long. I made the decision not to show that to her at that time because it would make her feel guilty for causing the fgrandma to grieve. I explained to them that as long as it's positive notes and calls and letters, etc...then we would be happy to pass them onto her. We understand they love her however they needed to have space to let her move forward into our family. I'm hoping this trip next week will be a postive one. It will be interesting to see how it goes. I've always been a positive person and avoid negativity...so I'm sure everything will be fine
