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Books I've read and found useful:

• Is Adoption for Me?, by Christine Adamec
• Adopting in America, by Randall Hicks
• The Essential Adoption Handbook, by Colleen Alexander-Roberts
• The Adoption Resource Book, by Lois Gilman
• Reaching Out, by Nelson Handel

I did not like The Open Adoption Experience, nor did my son's birthmother. We both felt that we were being told how we should feel. The author tends to use generalizations - "The child will feel this", "The adoptive parents must grieve their infertility", and so on. (We never had infertility issues, so no, we didn't have to grieve.) It really does need to be updated too.

Books that have been recommended to me, but I've not yet read:

• Adoption Nation, by Adam Pertman
• Arms Wide Open, by Jane Waters
• Making Room in Our Hearts, by Micky Duxbury
• Lifegivers, by James Gritter
• The Third Choice, by Leslie Foge
• Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother, by Jana Wolf

Also, Adoptive Families magazine.

Hope this helps!