[KelleyF]

Originally Posted by ranoutofnames

He went on to say there is no way you can feel the same for an adopted child as you can for a biological child... of course he feels he's the expert because he has one biological child and no adopted children.

There it is right there. He is only assuming because he has no idea what it feels like to have an adopted child. I'm guessing he was trying to feel the excitement of childbirth with you and said the wrong thing without really thinking it through. Obviously this is very painful to you and it's too important not to discuss with him how you feel about it. I'm sure the last thing he meant to do was hurt you. Talk it out with him and see where it goes before you make any decisions about future caretakers for your kids.