When my son was younger, we really liked the book "a mother for Choco" and Jamie Lee Curtis "tell me again about the night I was born". They focus on the positive side of adoption. My boys are so close in age (5 months apart) that keeping it quiet was never an option. At 8 years old, they enjoy keeping strangers on their toes if asked. The lastest thing they tell people is they are "almost twins" and walk off. Once they had a lady at a store who was being really rude about the adoption so my oldest looked her in the eye and told he "I'm homegrown and he's store bought" I just about died and later explained that wasn't the best way to handle it. I have to admit privately that it was really funny to see her walk off in a huff.
