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Old 05-30-2008, 09:43 PM
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Originally Posted by mommacass
Well I got a call today that K's mom signed her rights away. They want to give her a goodbye visit on Monday. I really dread how K will react to this. I don't know how to prepare her for it or what I should say. Out of all the fc we have had we only had one that had one visit and she was an infant. I can't imagine how to deal with a goodbye visit. They told me it could last for 1 - 2 hrs. Should I stay or have them call me? Also K made a print of her hands on a wash cloth at preschool and it has a little poem about her hands attached to it, I would like to give this to her mom but I don't want to make her feel worse.

MommaCass

You are so kind-hearted and sweet. K is very young, I would not discuss that it is a goodbye visit. If you agency or a therapist feels differently--let them have that conversation with her.


The washcloth idea is very nice--however, it really belongs to K. She may want it to show her children someday--"look how little my hands were when I was four". Perhaps take some pictures of K and give them to birth mom?

The visit is more for birth mom, I think. If you are there, keep it light, help them play some games together or read a book.

Will be thinking of you--
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