My experience
I have placed 2 children for adoption. One through an agency and one private adoption with an attorney. The agency adoption came first and in my specific case I had absolutely no control or decision-making authority in that adoption. I understand that many agencies do not have such horrible practices but that was my experience. The second adoption was completely within my control. I found the aparents through an add placed in my local paper (they lived in an entirely different state). The aparents worked directly with me and the father even though their attorney handled all of the legal matters. I have been thrilled with the outcome of this second adoption. I have such pain and frustration regarding the first adoption. As far as I am concerned... you can get good and bad adoption scenarios out of either an agency adoption or an adoption involving an attorney. I also believe that both an agency and an attorney look out more for their clients... the aparents. Just my opinion based on my experience. My best advice to you is to go with what you feel. You will feel when it is right. I was worried the entire time through the first adoption but was completely relaxed and happy through the second. What I felt at the time of each adoption has continued to ring true throughout each one to this day.
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