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We adopted twice domestically. For us, international adoption was out of the question for several reasons. Mainly, we felt having the opportunity for our children to some day find their birthmother (in our situations, we have all of their information and have relationships with them now, so there will be no need to "find" them) and we felt this healthier in the future. In international adoption, my understanding is that it's quite difficult to find birthparents when the child wants to look. Also, in many international situations, you have to go to the country for a total period of weeks, in at least one country, it's like 4-6 weeks, for us this wasn't possible at all. It was 1 week there to meet the child and then leave without, then back again for at least 2 but up to 6 weeks while the adoption is being processed through their court system. I also had a friend who adopted through Guatemala. She knew when her child was born and returned their to visit her but wasn't able to get her here until the little girl was 14 months old. It drove her crazy, as it would anyone to know your child isn't with you for that length of time, right? Maybe that was just a rare thing, not sure, but it sure made me steer clear of international adoption. I have heard several adoptive couples say they didn't want the birthmother involvement. I can understand that being a good reason to adopt internationally. Not saying anything is wrong with it, just repeating some I have heard. Anyway, those were our reasons.
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